To Tell Or Not To Tell?

Updated on September 11, 2018 in Pre-Operation Surgery Questions & Answers
4 on July 26, 2018

I’m quite in a dilemma whether I will tell my friends about my decision to have a gastric sleeve surgery. If I tell them, then they might say things I don’t like to hear. If I don’t say anything then they might think that I don’t trust them.

 
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0 on July 26, 2018

James, it’s a hard choice to make.  I chose to tell only a few of my close friends before I had my surgery.  

Maybe you can dip your toe in with one or two close, trusted friends?  Ask them what they think about gastric bypass sleeve surgery and see what their attitudes are before you decide whether to tell them or not.  

Your real friends should be supportive of your decision and will hopefully be there for you throughout this process.  Having support is definitely helpful in this process. 

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0 on July 26, 2018

I had to keep it a secret until the procedure was done. Only my family knew about my decision to have this surgery. Sometimes, friends tell us things that they think can help us, but in reality, their words are hurting us.

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0 on July 27, 2018

You are both correct. However, I just realized that I don’t have to please my friends for the decision I’m making in order for me to have better health. Whatever they say shouldn’t affect my decision.

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0 on September 11, 2018

I havent even told my family. They are who I worry about having very narrow and critical things to say. My aunt, sisousin, roommate, and best friend know. I feel well supported. My mom and sister may or may not know after the surgery. If they dont ask then I wont tell. A piece of mail from the surgeon went to my moms. If she paid attention she hasnt mentioned it. If she does then I will tell her it isnt up for discussion yet. This is all happening really quickly for me and I just dont want any negative vibes going into something that I have decided will better my life and well being .

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