Saying Good-Bye to a Part of Myself

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8 on August 14, 2019

I was going through my winter clothes last weekend to see what I have and what I need. Most of my winter clothes no longer fit – they are too big. I made a huge donation pile of clothes to donate to Goodwill. 

But it’s left me feeling strange. I am glad that I am not as overweight as I once was, but it was such a big part of my life. It’s like getting rid of these clothes is getting rid of a part of me somehow. 

Am I the only one who is struggling with actually being smaller? 

 
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1 on August 14, 2019

I am with you on this, but I would not say that it is a struggle because I consider it a success. What I don’t like is the buying part because I need to buy new clothes that will fit me.

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I imagine it costs a fortune.  Good grief, I need to be sure and factor that into my cost considerations while budgeting for surgery.  I’m so glad you brought this up or I would’ve been blindsided down the road. 

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I feel like changing always makes us feel awkward. It’s not only about losing or gaining weight. I’ve changed careers in my life, and sometimes I still think about a few parts of the old times longingly. I didn’t feel that strongly about the surgery, but I understand that others might.

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I think it’s nice of you to donate your old clothes, Jenny.  I haven’t had surgery yet, but I do worry what my wife will think of me once I’ve lost weight.  I’ve always been the fat, funny guy.  I wonder who I’ll be without the weight.  

7 days ago

Don’t worry about it because you will still be the same minus the extra weight. I’m also on the pre-op stage, and I’m focusing what is in front of me right now. As the saying goes, I will cross the bridge when I reach it.

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I had surgery over six months ago and I’m struggling a bit with body acceptance too.  I don’t feel smaller, but the scale says I am and my clothes agree.  But I feel like the old me if that makes sense, Jenny.  I’m still ashamed of my body.  I have stretch marks and I’m a guy.  Like I had them before surgery, I realize that, but I didn’t notice them then. 

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0 6 days ago

I did not struggle about being lighter in weight. I had a struggle with the excess skin that occurred after I became lighter. The sagging skin on my arms were the ones that embarrassed me the most. I eventually accepted who I am, and I don’t regret my decision.

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I worry about getting excess skin too and being smaller and my mental health as I suffer with depression. Being so fat made me hate to look at myself, I hated the way I became so big but losing weight is helping with that but the worry now is the extra skin going to make me hate myself again. I am divorced for 20 years and not had a boyfriend in that time as I stay in. I dont feel anyone would want me. Maybe once I lose more I may feel different but right now I still feel too fat even though my clothes are starting to hang on me. I know how u feel it is strange.

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