Saying Good-Bye to a Part of Myself

Updated on August 24, 2019 in General Support Thread
9 on August 14, 2019

I was going through my winter clothes last weekend to see what I have and what I need. Most of my winter clothes no longer fit – they are too big. I made a huge donation pile of clothes to donate to Goodwill. 

But it’s left me feeling strange. I am glad that I am not as overweight as I once was, but it was such a big part of my life. It’s like getting rid of these clothes is getting rid of a part of me somehow. 

Am I the only one who is struggling with actually being smaller? 

 
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1 on August 14, 2019

I am with you on this, but I would not say that it is a struggle because I consider it a success. What I don’t like is the buying part because I need to buy new clothes that will fit me.

on August 14, 2019

I imagine it costs a fortune.  Good grief, I need to be sure and factor that into my cost considerations while budgeting for surgery.  I’m so glad you brought this up or I would’ve been blindsided down the road. 

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0 on August 14, 2019

I feel like changing always makes us feel awkward. It’s not only about losing or gaining weight. I’ve changed careers in my life, and sometimes I still think about a few parts of the old times longingly. I didn’t feel that strongly about the surgery, but I understand that others might.

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1 on August 14, 2019

I think it’s nice of you to donate your old clothes, Jenny.  I haven’t had surgery yet, but I do worry what my wife will think of me once I’ve lost weight.  I’ve always been the fat, funny guy.  I wonder who I’ll be without the weight.  

on August 15, 2019

Don’t worry about it because you will still be the same minus the extra weight. I’m also on the pre-op stage, and I’m focusing what is in front of me right now. As the saying goes, I will cross the bridge when I reach it.

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0 on August 16, 2019

I had surgery over six months ago and I’m struggling a bit with body acceptance too.  I don’t feel smaller, but the scale says I am and my clothes agree.  But I feel like the old me if that makes sense, Jenny.  I’m still ashamed of my body.  I have stretch marks and I’m a guy.  Like I had them before surgery, I realize that, but I didn’t notice them then. 

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0 on August 16, 2019

I did not struggle about being lighter in weight. I had a struggle with the excess skin that occurred after I became lighter. The sagging skin on my arms were the ones that embarrassed me the most. I eventually accepted who I am, and I don’t regret my decision.

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1 on August 20, 2019

I worry about getting excess skin too and being smaller and my mental health as I suffer with depression. Being so fat made me hate to look at myself, I hated the way I became so big but losing weight is helping with that but the worry now is the extra skin going to make me hate myself again. I am divorced for 20 years and not had a boyfriend in that time as I stay in. I dont feel anyone would want me. Maybe once I lose more I may feel different but right now I still feel too fat even though my clothes are starting to hang on me. I know how u feel it is strange.

on August 24, 2019

I wonder if you feeling nauseous most of the times is related to that feeling. After all, when we feel unhealthy despite our best attempts, we can’t help being disappointed. I also believe that those who care for us just for our appearances isn’t worth it in the long run.

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