One thing to consider about not telling

Updated on December 16, 2019 in Gastric Sleeve Surgery General Topics
4 on December 13, 2019

I know some people choose not to tell others about having weight-loss surgery and that’s their right.  A close friend of mine took this route and only told me as he knew I had been through it too.  He doesn’t eat much and he’s lost a dramatic amount of weight with no explanation other than “I’m just not hungry.”   It all came to a head last night because his friends and family were afraid that he either had cancer or had become anorexic and needed medical care. Two of his siblings actually flew in to urge him to get help.  

I think it’s easy for us to get caught up in our own experience since weight-loss surgery causes a big lifestyle change.  Just know that not telling others might make them fear the worst.  It never occurred to my friend or me that it could be such a big deal. 

 
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0 on December 13, 2019

Surely there must be some sort of compromise between telling everyone your private medical business and not telling a soul while they all worry.  Maybe just saying you’re focused on getting healthier would do the trick.  That way others would understand about the weight loss and new diet.  Or maybe sharing news about your weight-loss surgery with just close family would be enough.  Then if cousin Carl or aunt Amy starts asking questions, those in the know can calm their worries with “oh, he’s just making changes to become healthier.” 

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0 on December 13, 2019

I also decided not to tell anyone I didn’t want to share my business with. I think, even though surely there will be people that worry, it is our own right to decide who to tell what. I told people I was losing weight by eating smaller portions, which is no lie. Only a bit further into the process I started feeling more comfortable about telling people.

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0 on December 15, 2019

I can definitely see how that could happen. Others might have thought that he was starving himself in order to lose weight because other diets hadn’t worked. I think it’s a good idea to let those close to us know what’s going on to avoid situations like this, but I don’t think that everyone in our lives necessarily need to know. 

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0 on December 16, 2019

Well, I think it’s different for each person. Some have no problem sharing such information while others prefer to give such details to very few people. Ultimately, what matters is having the right support system and correct mindset, before and after the surgery.

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