Learning body acceptance

Updated on September 12, 2019 in General Support Thread
5 on September 7, 2019

I’ve lost a lot of weight thanks to gastric sleeve surgery.  It was truly a life saver for me.  However, I still feel so awkward in public.  I’m a guy and that’s hard for me to admit.  I’m smart, funny, and a good friend, but I have zero body confidence.  How long did it take you to become happy with yourself and to learn body acceptance?

 
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1 on September 8, 2019

Body acceptance is something I’ve been struggling with my whole life. I’ve always been overweight. I’ve always felt ugly. I still feel really awkward because while my weight-loss surgery has helped me lose a good amount of weight, I’m still overweight and have a ways to go. 

I am currently in therapy to help me deal with the issues that led to me using food as a way to cope. My therapist and I are working on body acceptance, but I am still not happy with my body the way it is. 

I hope you reach a place where you’re at peace with your body someday. I wish that for all of us here. 

on September 12, 2019

Yeah, you’re probably right.  I’ve considered therapy for a while now and it looks like I need to take the leap.  I hope you achieve body acceptance soon.  Maybe we’ll both get there. 

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1 on September 9, 2019

I’d say it would take me my whole life to truly be happy with myself. One day I feel good, the next day I find something to be depressed about. It’s like a scary circle. Thinking about it, that probably means I don’t know myself that good yet, so I’m working on it.

I also want to say that surrounding yourself with the right people is very important.

on September 12, 2019

Hey, blackdust.  I’m fortunate to have a great group of friends who are very supportive of me.  I get some push-back from family, but that’s really only because they worry about me and they do say it with love and respect and they’ll support whatever I do in the long run.  But even with all this support, I’m still not comfortable in my own body.  I think I’m going to take the therapist route.  Thanks for replying.  I hate we’re all going through this lack of body acceptance but it honestly makes me feel better to know it’s a normal feeling.  

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0 on September 10, 2019

I don’t think your lack of self-esteem is necessarily about your size.  Plenty of  obese people are completely comfortable in their own skin, including me.  I want to have weight-loss surgery for my health, but no matter what, I’m still happy with who I am both inside and out.  You can have that self-image too.  I think SassySasha has a great idea about trying therapy.  Talking to a professional can make all the difference. 

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