I lost my super power

Updated on November 3, 2019 in General Support Thread
5 on October 16, 2019

I met up with friends and two of their boyfriends to play cards. I was having a great time when I started getting questions about my weight loss.  My core friend group is very supportive, but apparently the whole thing baffled one of the boyfriends.  The best bit was hearing,  “You know, you’re not as funny anymore.”  Right.  Because fat people are funny. Of course.  So, I’ve lost my fat girl super power.  

Have you had any stereotypes thrown at you after surgery?  

 
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0 on October 16, 2019

That’s interesting because I’ve also had that comment made to me since I’ve had weight-loss surgery. I think I do make fewer jokes now because I’m not trying to detract attention away from my weight as much as I used to. But I don’t think I’m any less funny than I was before. 

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2 on October 16, 2019

Reading your experiences about people’s remarks before and after the surgery makes me feel like I shouldn’t have high expectations about their open minds. Then again, I’m doing this for my own health. I should be ready from now, though I bet it still hurts when we hear those words directed to us. What did you say in response, Mia?

on October 17, 2019

Nothing.  I said nothing in response.  I’m not the best at delivering witty comebacks when I’m thinking on my feet.  I can always think of zingers after the fact, but I draw a blank during the moment.  So yeah, I said nothing. 

on November 3, 2019

That’s probably the best response. I prefer to show those kinds of people that I am unbothered by their criticism, that I’m confident in my own skin. That’s what I hope to become through the surgery. Crossing my fingers!

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0 on October 17, 2019

I’ve lost weight (and regained) in the past and was told by a co-worker that they didn’t see me as the friendly guy anymore.  Like he literally admitted that he saw overweight people as inherently more friendly.  I thought it was odd.  

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