Husband disappointed in surgery option

Updated on September 8, 2019 in Post-Operation Surgery Questions & Answers
4 on September 6, 2019

My husband went in for a gastric bypass, but the surgeon couldn’t perform it without forcing too much tension on my husband’s intestines.  The surgeon wanted to be safe (which I appreciate!) so he performed gastric sleeve surgery instead.  For some reason my husband just can’t get over not getting the bypass.  He thinks he won’t be successful without it.  He’s about to transition into the real food phase of the diet and he’s been doing okay but he’s so negative about the whole thing. I think the sleeve will work out well, but he’s so unsure.  Can he lose enough weight with the sleeve?  Will he need a gastric bypass later?  I don’t want to act like a Pollyanna towards him and give him false hope if the sleeve isn’t enough. 

 
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1 on September 6, 2019

Hi AmandaK,

I originally wanted to have the gastric wrap, but the surgeon told me I had to have the sleeve as the wrap wasn’t an option. He is doing well to be transitioning into the real food phase and regards to his weight loss. If he sticks to his dietician/nutritionist diet plan then there’s absolutely no reason why his weight loss should be a problem. He should lose the weight and eventually placebo at his bodies limit. Then it’s about maintenance and a good balance of diet/portion control.

I wish your husband all the best for his new lease of life!!!

P.s I had the gastric sleeve on 20th August and was 313lbs. I have lost 28lbs since. I am on the purée food stage and feeling more positive each day and I hope your husband will do too?

Kind regards
John

on September 6, 2019

Congratulations on your weight loss, John S!  That’s a significant amount to lose. 

My husband has lost quite a bit too so far.  He recovered quickly and is even exercising daily. The man was a  dedicated coach potato before, so the fact that he’s up and going is a blessing.  Even though it’s going so well, he’s got it in his head that the  sleeve will automatically stretch over time and he will need another surgery.  He talks like it’s inevitable and I’m afraid that sort of doomed thinking will lead to failure.  Because he decided to have a gastric bypass early on, that’s all we really learned about.  I hope he’ll feel better about his surgery once I show him your response and some of the other information here. 

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0 on September 7, 2019

He could’ve had it worse like a few others who couldn’t lose weight or had complications from either procedure, so I’m happy to hear that he’s fine so far. From what I read, the results depend mostly on how faithful we are to our diet. I hope your husband will realize that soon.

Do you guys know friends or other people who are taking the weight loss surgery as well?

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0 on September 8, 2019

I’ve read that the success of all of these types of weight-loss surgeries is more about how well we follow our diets afterward and less about which type of surgery we get. 

Keep cheering your husband on. Encourage him to stick with the meal plans. Exercise with him if you can. There’s no reason he cannot be successful! 

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