How did your family and friends change?

Updated on November 3, 2019 in Post-Operation Surgery Questions & Answers
6 on October 16, 2019

It’s probably a strange question, but thank you for reading. We all worry about our bodies and motivation after the surgery, but I’m also nervous about how my new journey will affect the people around me. How did your family and friends react to the new you? Is there anything I should be telling them now so all of us can be prepared?

 
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0 on October 16, 2019

I was single when I had gastric banding surgery, but I’ve heard that sudden weight loss can cause disharmony in couples.  So if you are part of a couple, I’d decide now how you’ll nurture the relationship moving forward and if possible I’d work out any issues before having surgery.

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0 on October 16, 2019

I don’t think that my family and friends changed, but that I changed and they responded to the new me.  I turned down lots of social events because they all put emphasis on food.  I couldn’t face that while I was going through the bariatric diet, so I declined.  However, I wish I had communicated better about it because the invitations dried up after so many refusals.  I didn’t explain myself because I was afraid they’d feel like they had to change plans for me and I didn’t want to appear demanding.  In hindsight, had I been honest, it would’ve been fine. 

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1 on October 18, 2019

I think this is the part that I’m worried about the most.  I just want to be a healthier version of myself without it changing everything else.  One thing I’ve decided to try is to create a box of things that I can use to distract myself when I’m craving for carbs and Coke.  I’m hoping it will stop me from snapping at others.  

on November 3, 2019

You hit the nail for me. I just want to keep all the best things in my life. Reading the comments here makes me wonder if what I have now is actually superficial. I guess I should prepare myself that it may be like that as I try to communicate what I feel like Wren.

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0 on October 20, 2019

My husband has received so much support since his surgery that it blows him away.   A couple of guys from his workplace go with him to the gym and they’ve started playing racquetball every week. At first he had a hard time accepting this level of camaraderie because he didn’t want to be seen as weak.  But he gradually realized that no one was judging him.  It’s just about supporting a buddy.  So maybe you could let them know what type of support you would most appreciate.

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0 on October 28, 2019

I haven’t had my surgery yet, so I don’t know how my family and friends will react to how I change. 

However, some of my friends are not supportive of me getting this surgery. I have distanced myself from them for the time being because I need to stay positive about this, and I need to surround myself with people who are supportive. 

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