Average weight spouses?

Updated on August 20, 2019 in General Support Thread
4 on August 17, 2019

For those with spouses who aren’t overweight, does your spouse understand your struggle to lose weight?  Are they supportive of your choice to have weight-loss surgery?  How involved were they in the planning process?  My husband is of average weight and has never been heavy.  He is concerned that something will go wrong during surgery and says he loves me just the way I am.  I appreciate his concern but I still want to move forward with having gastric sleeve surgery.  How do I get him on board? 

 
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0 on August 18, 2019

I’m not currently involved with anyone, but I do have friends who don’t understand why I’m choosing to have gastric sleeve surgery. 

Maybe you can remind him of all the other things you have tried to lose weight and didn’t work. Let him know that you appreciate his concern very much. Let him know that this is really important to you, and tell him that you’d really appreciate his support in this. 

I think it’s really difficult for those who have never been heavy to really understand the struggles we go through. 

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0 on August 18, 2019

 I think it’s awesome that you have a partner who loves you, for you. What about inviting him to come along to your initial appointment?  Hearing the information straight from the medical professional might help and your husband could ask any questions he might have.

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0 on August 19, 2019

I’m happy to know that your husband accepts you for who you are. My husband also has the same concern when I told him about my plan. I told him that it is about how I feel about myself, which is why I have to have the surgery. I’m glad that he understood me.

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0 on August 20, 2019

Mark mentions a good idea. Everyone deals with this kind of topic differently; some don’t mind going through a surgery, others are afraid just at the mention of the word. I think that nobody can perfectly understand what we’re going through, so we should give them some space and time to try.

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